Why Change Is So Hard (and Why It’s Always Fascinated Me)

Change has fascinated me for as long as I can remember.

Even as a child, I noticed something that confused me: people would stay in clearly painful situations. Jobs they hated. Relationships that drained them. Patterns that kept repeating. And yet, they stayed. Not because they were lazy or unaware, but because change felt harder than the suffering they already knew.

I’ve done this too. Many times.

Over the years, that early curiosity turned into something deeper: a desire to understand what actually happens inside us when change is introduced not just mentally, but physically, emotionally, energetically.

Watching Change Happen in Real Time

I spent 17 years working in a large corporate environment. From the outside, it looked stable. From the inside, it was in constant resistance to change. Often the bigger the organization the harder it is to implement new changes.

Leadership changed. Processes changed. Even small things, like a new expense system or a different travel booking platform, could create visible stress in people’s bodies. Tight shoulders. Short tempers. Resistance. Anxiety.

Some people adapted more quickly. Others struggled deeply. And I was endlessly curious:
Why does the same change land so differently in different people?

I sought out change management courses and many personal development trainings, wanting to understand the psychology behind it. At the same time, I worked in research, development, and manufacturing... spaces driven by trends and the market landscape. What people want. What they reject. How beauty standards evolve. How desires shift across cultures.

I was lucky to travel for work, witnessing firsthand how different countries relate to beauty, identity, and consumption. As social media grew, I watched global influence accelerate. Trends crossed borders. Standards blurred. And again, I asked:
Where does change really begin? And how do humans adapt to it—or resist it?

Even while doing very technical, detailed work, this question was always alive in me.

Change, Loss, and Grief

When I left that job, the exploration didn’t stop... it deepened.

In my first year away, after a personal loss and during a global pandemic, I took a death doula course. On the surface, it may seem unrelated. But for me, it was another doorway into the same question:
How do humans process profound change?

Because change almost always includes grief.

Not just grief from death, but grief from unmet expectations. From lives not unfolding the way we imagined. From identities dissolving. From chapters ending before we felt ready.

We experience grief far more often than we acknowledge.

What the Body Does When Life Changes

Over the last six years of working closely with people one-on-one, I’ve learned something that no textbook could teach:

The body and energy system respond to change long before the mind catches up.

I’ve watched bodies brace. Guard. Collapse. Freeze. Push forward. Hold on. Let go. Sometimes all in the same session.

I’ve seen people desperately want change while simultaneously building walls against it. Not because they’re sabotaging themselves, but because their nervous system learned that safety once depended on holding things exactly as they were.

And I’ve learned how to gently work with that, not force it.

Change doesn’t happen because we decide it should.
It happens when the body feels safe enough to allow something new.

This Is Where I Specialize

When people ask how to choose the right practitioner, I understand the question deeply. I ask it too.

For me, this is the answer I can offer honestly:
This is what I have been studying formally and informally for over three decades.

Through observation. Through research. Through corporate systems. Through grief work. Through embodiment. Through hundreds of hours with real human bodies navigating real transitions.

I don’t rush change. I don’t bypass grief. And I don’t assume the mind knows best.

I help you notice what’s actually happening inside you—what’s tightening, what’s resisting, what’s asking for time, and what’s ready to move.

If You’re in a Season of Change

If you’re navigating change right now
If you’re grieving what didn’t happen, or what had to end
If you feel stuck between wanting something new and being unable to let go of the old

You’re not broken. And you’re not behind.

You’re human.

And you don’t have to navigate it alone.

If this resonates, I’d love to work with you. Let’s move through this together at a pace your body can actually trust.